When we were kids and we saw the adults living their lives around us, all we wanted to do is grow up and be just like them. Sometimes, all we wanted to see was the freedom to do whatever the f_ ck they wanted, go out, and get back home as they pleased. Rarely we see the reality of adulthood before our adolescent years, mostly we see the reality and responsibilities as we become an adult ourselves. Some people think that having children is just feeding them, making sure they don't break and play with them here and there, with those actions; "Everything will be just fine, they will grow up and become good citizens in this crazy world."
Most parents show their kids movies about fairytales or read them books at night during their bedtime routine. In my opinion, if you aren't real and honest enough with your children, these fairytales might bring a misguided sense of reality. I mean; "Who didn't want that magical connection that will sweep you off your feet and right after everything will be just colorful and perfect?"
Some people have the blessing to have a comfortable life even if they go through ups and downs. Others have to work a little more through those ups and downs depending on their goals and believes to meet their needs. Once we start our adulthood, we see beyond those ideals we once had. Yes, sometimes we get the freedom we were so drawn to for so long, we can come and go most of the time as we pleased depending on your civil status and finances. We can find our better half, life partner, soulmate, have a strong bond with someone that keeps us on cloud 9 most of the time.
This brings me to my question… Do we evolve as adults around love, money, or both? Which one draws you in more, love or money?
LET'S TALK ABOUT MONEY
Some people get caught up in their love for money without realizing their ambition turns into greed. Is different when you are being ambitious with purpose; working your ass off because you want and need to provide for your loved ones, also, having the vision to improve and be the change you want to see in the world.
When you become greedy and shift all your focus on making more and more money because you want to be the center of attention and have others praise you, you begin to crave the power, pleasures, and comfort that money brings, then you have crossed the line either willingly or without even noticing. There's nothing wrong with wanting and feeling power, pleasure, and comfort as long as you don't sacrifice and compromise what matters the most;
- your mental health,
- your physical health,
- quality time with your loved ones.
Money can buy you plenty of material things that will bring a temporary satisfaction, but it can actually take you away from what is essential and truly valuable in life.
NOW, WHAT ABOUT LOVE?
I can't stress enough the importance of self-love. We need to learn to love ourselves with all the great and nasty things that make us who we are. We are who we are, and we should love every inch of it. If there is something you don't like about yourself, work on improving one day at a time and you'll see the change in no time.
When you love yourself, you can actually love other people because you are sharing what you carry in your soul. You actually choose to spend who you are, your time and energy to make someone's life a little better. It is the art of giving, rather than taking. It is so fulfilling to treat others as you would like to be treated, to be supportive even through differences and through difficult times, to improve someone else's day with just small gestures throughout the day. There are infinite ways to show someone you that care about them, to let them know that even though the craziness of your day, they come to your mind once in a while.
Let's be honest, we are NEVER too busy to let someone you love or care about that you have them present in your life one way or the other. You can still be present in the life of those you care about the most even through the distance. There's NO EXCUSE, as busy as you might be, you can take the time to send a quick text with a good morning or hello, an emoji, a minute phone call just to listen to their voice, even a picture. A minute of your time or even less than those 60 seconds won't kill you or take your focus away from what you are doing, it would actually bring love and purpose to your day.
Don't get me wrong, I'm very ambitious myself and I have plenty of goals that might seem crazy or impossible for many, but I understand the fine line between positive ambition and greed. As a mother of two young girls, it is important for me to teach them on a daily basis to become smart, well-educated, independent, resilient, humble, visionary, focused women in their future. Everything that I do, I do it for their wellbeing. Trust me, I have days or weeks where I do more than what my body and mind can take, but I do my best to practice that balance and I take time off to have that quality time every day and show them that I'm present in their lives.
Whenever you see yourself sacrificing those valuable points in your life, it is time to sit down and meditate on your priorities and ask yourself if the sacrifice is really worth it. I'm not sugar-coated, nobody is perfect, we all have different beliefs, wants, and priorities. This is why we all do what we feel is best for ourselves and what makes us happy.
Let's be real, we all want and need money, as we do with love. Working with a healthy dose of ambition and love towards your goals makes a big difference. Evolving with the balance between money and love might take a little longer to get there sometimes, but it can give you permanent results where you can enjoy prosperity while enjoying and growing the essence of life that comes from pure and authentic love.